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Pester Power ? Are we raising ?wanting machines??

Ok so it?s coming up to Christmas and despite our every effort to the darling teenagers in our lives, this time of year has turned into nothing more than a shop front.

I have to say, I was shopping the other day with my 7-year-old and we saw a Bratz House. We looked at it and I was astonished at a price tag or ￡189. I could not believe it, for a plastic house! This was great as it allowed for us to have a conversation about money air max rouge pas cher , however my heart went out as I know that many Parents will be pestered and pestered for that house and Parents all over the country will give in to make their children happy. The power of advertising!

What has happened, we appear to have created a group of Parents who cannot say no. Parents seem unwilling to set limits or draw the line anywhere. Is it that they feel more guilty as so many of them are working such long hours, is it that our kids have just got better at asking, or is it that the advertising is just so good that we just cannot say no?

Whatever the reason, I have to say that I am concerned that we are raising a generation who are ?wanting machines? air max blanche pas cher , who respond to the marketing aimed right at them. They are growing up with a distorted sense of entitlement and we risk the next generation becoming self-centred and self-absorbed and growing up into adults that simply do not care.

And the figures are staggering.

According to market research, Families of 3-12 year olds now spend $53.8 Billion annually on entertainment, personal care items and reading material, $17.6 billion more that 1997.

And there is another worrying thought, does over-indulgence have a bad effect on school performance and relationships? Kids who get their own way most of the time are very demanding and much less likely to be able to form long-lasting air max noir pas cher , sustainable relationships with people.

So what do we do?

1.Get clear what you want as a Parent

Most of us are so clear about trying to please our children and give them what they want that we forget about what we want. And I don?t mean material things, I mean what you want out of life ? what do you want as a Parent, what is your purpose for being a Parent. Now it may be that your purpose is to give your children absolutely everything they want and if that is the case, you are on course. If however, like me nike air max pas cher , your purpose is to raise a responsible and independant young adult who is caring and compassionate, what you are doing may be against where you really want to be.

So next time they say, ?Mum can I have???? check in with what you want as a Parent and see if it fits.

2.Set a limit

I know it may seem obvious, but most Parents don?t do it. Set a limit you are willing to spend on your child and let them know. Tell them that you want to feel good about Christmas too and that you are only willing to spend this much because Christmas is about so much more. Be very clear that no matter what, you will not go over that limit.

3.What do they really think it will give them?

If they still continue to pester and pester air max pas cher , ask this question, ?What do you think having that will give you?? I know you may stump them, but they will answer and if they don?t know, then why do they want it in the first place? When they tell you what they think having that thing will give them, ask them how they can get more of that into their lives now. When we do this we realise that actually we did not want the thing http://www.airmaxpascherrabais.fr/ , but only the quality we thought the thing would give us.

4.Encourage entrepreneurism

Now this one will really stop them, if they continue to ask, say that you are not prepared to pay for it and ask how you can support them in getting it. Now first they may turn to all the illegal things and they may need some prompting. You may need to ask how they can get the money; encourage their creativity. Maybe they will sell things on E-bay, train others how to use Excel or build websites for others.

5.Giving vs. receiving